Why do we reminisce? I hardly consider myself someone who looks to the past to create the future. I think I have always been live for the moment kind of person despite I love planning so much things ahead, which yes, does seem a little contradicting but I do at the end of the day, tend to live in the moment and not think back about the things that I’ve done.
I can say that I don’t have regrets in my life. Sure I’ve done several, if not many, mistakes and things that I wished I didn’t do, but I do not feel remorseful or even regretful that those things happened or that I’ve done them. I feel and always tell myself that no matter how bad the consequences of those mistakes were/are, I wouldn’t be where I am today and I love being where I am today.
I have lived for 25 years and I have never once celebrated New Year’s. I have never been to a New Year’s Eve party. Not because I don’t get invited but I do not feel that there is a need to celebrate. Of course saying that just made me sound very pessimistic because it made me sound as though I have nothing to look forward to in the next 365 days, fresh out of the oven. So to say.
I enjoyed the year that has passed, whether or not anything good happened, and I welcome the coming year with open mind, thinking that things could probably get better or get worse than how it was. I guess I do this so that I wouldn’t be disappointed if nothing turns out to be the way I wanted. Which is another reason why I do not have New Year’s Resolution.
It’s nice to see people having so much hope and resolution for the new 365 days. But it is a sad thing to see them fall back to where they were before only 2 days after the toast was so merrily made at the party.
For me, there is nothing wrong with reminiscing about the past because to a lot of people, that was how they learn and grow – from past mistakes. But I think it is rather superficial to be toasting and boasting for a better year when there is nothing done and you fall back to the routine that you just left 365 days ago.
Do I reminisce? Only when I need to remember something in particular about my past. Usually about an old song, or an old friend, or a smell that I associated with something.
Usually I remember nothing more than that.